Wedding Toast Quotes for Parents (Real Ones, and How to Use One)
Good quotes for a parent's wedding toast are short, verifiable, and lead into something about your child, such as George Eliot's lines on two souls joined for life or Kahlil Gibran's parents as bows, children as living arrows. One quote is usually enough.
- “What greater thing is there for two human souls than to feel that they are joined for life—to strengthen each other in all labour, to rest on each other in all sorrow…” — George Eliot, Adam Bede (1859)
- “You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.” — Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet (1923), “On Children”
- “But let there be spaces in your togetherness, / And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.” — Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet (1923), “On Marriage”
- “Let me not to the marriage of true minds / Admit impediments.” — William Shakespeare, Sonnet 116 (1609)
- “The supreme happiness of life consists in the conviction that one is loved.” — Victor Hugo, Les Misérables (1862), in Isabel Hapgood’s translation
Five well-sourced quotes suit a parent's wedding toast: George Eliot's passage on two souls joined for life (Adam Bede, 1859), Kahlil Gibran's bows and living arrows and his 'spaces in your togetherness' (The Prophet, 1923), Shakespeare's Sonnet 116, and Victor Hugo's line on the conviction of being loved (Les Misérables, Hapgood translation). Each can be checked against the original text, and one quote of under about 25 words, followed by your own sentence about your child, is usually what works.
A parent's toast carries something no one else's does: you knew this person before they could talk, and now you're watching them start a life you'll mostly see from the outside. A good quote can hold the size of that moment so your own words don't have to; a poor one sounds borrowed or turns out to belong to someone else.
How do you choose a quote for a parent's wedding toast?
The quote works best as support for something you already mean. Before searching, write one sentence in your own words about what this day is to you: pride, letting go, gratitude for the person they are marrying, or simply how fast it went. Then look for a line that says that thing. Searching the other way round, through lists of wedding quotes, tends to land on lines that are about weddings in general and could be read at anyone's. The five above each do a different job: Eliot names the size of the commitment, Gibran's arrows are about the parent's side of the moment, his "spaces" line is about room within closeness, Shakespeare is about constancy, and Hugo is about being loved.
How do you check that a wedding quote is real?
Quote sites copy one another, so a line can appear on hundreds of pages with the same wrong name attached, or in a smoothed-over version of what was actually written. A quick check: find the original work, whether a book, poem, play, letter or speech, and look for the line in it. Public-domain books are free to read on Project Gutenberg and Wikisource, which makes the older classics easy to confirm. If a quote has no work attached anywhere, only a famous name, that is the usual sign it can't be traced, and a different line is a safer choice for a room full of people. Someone Said It Better does this check for you: it only shows quotations it has verified against a source, with a link to that source.
How do you make a wedding quote personal?
The strongest parent toasts use a quote as a bridge to something specific. After Gibran's arrows line, for example, one true sentence about the moment you first saw who your child was becoming does more than the quote alone. A line that could only be said by you, about them, is what guests remember; the quote just frames it. If the couple have a book, poet or film they love, a line from it can mean more than anything on a wedding list, as long as it is real and short. For the shape of the rest of the toast, the best man speech that lands without trying too hard has advice that works for parents too.
Where should a quote go in a wedding toast?
One quote, at the opening or the close, is usually right; two starts to sound like a reading. Say who wrote it in a few words ("George Eliot wrote") rather than giving the full citation. Under about 25 words is easiest to say and to hear. Read it from your card even if you know it, and read it slowly, because guests hear it once. If it opens the toast, follow it straight away with your own sentence so the room knows why you chose it; if it closes, let it lead into raising your glass.
What kinds of wedding quotes fall flat?
Long passages, because a toast is not a reading and attention drops fast. Quotes that are really advice to the couple about how to be married, which can come across as a lecture from the parent. Lines with a double meaning or a sad source the room may know: some well-known passages come from poems about loss. Jokes about marriage as a trap or a sentence, which may get a laugh but rarely from the couple. And anything you can't attribute, because a misquote in a recorded speech tends to get noticed later. If you're also short on what to say yourself, how to give a toast when you barely know the person covers the basics of length and structure.
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